My friend just sent me this email which I am posting here with permission.  He’s having a rough time but I think he’s got the right mindset for being single now:

I am not having a good 2012 so far. The latest and greatest was my car breaking down on me yesterday morning. I was cruising along to work still half asleep when it happened. My car just suddenly turned off and wouldn’t turn back on. I thought it was probably the alternator and was correct. The bad thing is I don’t have AAA so I had to pay for a tow then the alternator and labor was a lot more than I expected. I had to get borrow some money for it which means I’m now in the hole and have to somehow make that up. I didn’t even know anything about those a week ago but I had to go online and learn more when I realized that I was probably going to need one.   I might be able to pick up some overtime but that all depends on the workflow at work. Some weeks it is available while others (which is most of the time) it isn’t.  At least I kind of like my job so it won’t be too bad.  But I’d prefer a raise instead!

This is after last month when my girlfriend of two years decided to end our relationship. That totally caught me off guard as I was more than happy with how things were going with us. We had even talked about moving in together later this year. She said that she needed time to figure out what she is doing with her life and right now a relationship wasn’t part of it. She pulled the old it isn’t you it is me routine that George on Seinfeld famously talked about. I didn’t believe it and still don’t but it isn’t like I can change her mind. I know because I tried.  I guess on the bright side it will eventually be nice to be single again. I rushed into my relationship with her after being with my ex for four years so it has been over 6 years since I was single. I know one thing and that is I won’t be rushing into another relationship anytime soon.  It’s weird being single again after being in a relationship for so long.  It’s like… it feels different.  There’s not someone always there, or always texting you or whatever.  I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, it’s just different.  I need to work on becoming happy with myself while I’m single before I’m ready to get back into another relationship.